Frequently Asked Questions
Resources for Parents and Teachers
How are kids and adults motivated?
In this lively RSA Animate from Dan Pink’s talk, illustrates the hidden truths behind what really motivates us at home and in the workplace.
How do we talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk?
This is one if my favorite books as a parent and teacher! Originally published in 1980 by Fabre and Mazlish, their tips and techniques apply more than ever. There book is: “How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk?”
Are there approaches to discipline that are more effective?
This table illustrates the differences of approach to justice between Retributive Justice and Restorative Justice. As you will see, Restorative Justice is community centric and focuses on making the victim whole. Restorative justice is also the way a parent and teacher can stay connected with child throughout the discipline process.
Is there a tool to help me understand my the stage of development with regard to race?
These frameworks have been developed to summarize the stages of racial and ethnic identity development. They are helpful in understanding where you are and envisioning next steps.
How do I practice presence as a parent?
In his engaging Google Talk, Dr. Dan Siegel acknowledges there’s no such thing as perfect parenting, that “we all flub up.” He describes how to truly “see” our children, feel their feelings and how we can reconnect with them when we’re inadvertently made a mistake.
How did the racial divide get started in the United States?
How do I teach my kids to be anti-racist when I’m still learning myself?
If you’re nervous about talking about race with your kids, these books will give you an easy place to start destigmatizing difference & celebrating racial diversity
What can predominantly white families, communities and organizations do for social justice?
Below is a link outlining 75 things white people can do for social justice. But before we get started, there are seven steps that will help us engage more effectively and compassionately so that our actions are mutually meaningful.
We need to:
- Slow down, acknowledge our reactions and the feelings of others
- Notice our biases and how they may keep us from hearing someone out or giving them the benefit of the doubt
- Listen deeply to the person who has been sidelined or silenced (i.e. people of color, women, those with disabilities, children, elders, etc) about how individual actions and cultural systems impact them and their community
- Affirm their pain
- Practice listening to more people and look for patterns of pain
- Be willing to be led and take action steps that actually address people’s pain (and not what we assume is their pain)
- Leverage our social opportunity/privilege to create systems, policies and practices that create belonging for everyone
What can mothers, fathers, grandparents, aunties, teachers, coaches and friends do to help our girls find their voice?
In my blog, “WoManifesto: The Backstory,” I share my process for learning how women’s voices are routinely shushed and silenced; thus, inadvertently communicating that women are not worth hearing. I also share practical steps adults can take to ensure our kid’s feel valued and heard.
How do you have genuine dialogue when two people are coming from very different perspectives?
What’s the first step to disarm a conflict?
How do you disarm a conversation that is about to turn ugly?
How do you disagree with someone more powerful than you, like a boss?
Considering that we all have our biases and get differed when we’re under stress, how do I help my employees respond professionally in stressful cross-cultural situations?
We all have important things we want to accomplish, but there are so many distractions and stumbling blocks that may get in our way. Here, writer Bina Venkataraman shares a startlingly easy strategy to use to defeat future challenges.
What is something our company can do to stop losing employees?
CNN Business reports: A lot of workers were leaving, particularly women and minorities. So the company launched a confidential hotline where employees are paired with case managers to resolve any workplace concerns or struggles, before they quit. Read more about how the Hotline works.
What’s it like for a minority when they join a homogenous organization?
Hot-button issues like workplace misogyny and a lack of diversity aren’t often explored by family-friendly Pixar. But it did just that in this nine-minute short. “It’s an example of tribalism, which can be damaging to both individual workers and the companies that employ them – when people are in an environment where everyone looks, sounds, acts and thinks the same, it can create an echo chamber and cyclical system that only includes and rewards the same kinds of people over and over.” (BBC)
Is your firm “managing” diversity or promoting equal opportunity?
How do we effectively shift mindset and change behavior in our organization?
Does being around people who are different from us make us smarter?
How do organizations move toward unity and wholeness?
How does asking women about their core values improve their performance in the workplace?
What is the missing ingredient in most diversity efforts?
What motivates people?
How can we break down barriers one lunch at a time?
How do we show white men that diversity and inclusion efforts need them?
Straight white men think they don’t belong when it comes to diversity and inclusion efforts. In this HBR article, the author illustrates how to reframe this rationale into a strengths-based approach and use their identity as insight.
Article link: https://hbr.org/2019/10/how-to-show-white-men-that-diversity-and-inclusion-efforts-need-them
How do immigrants contribute to the U.S. economy?
This Forbes article details the benefits.
How does whitesplaining hinder cross-cultural relationships?
CNN writer, John Blake explains “whitesplaining” is an affliction that’s triggered when some white people hear a person of color complain about racism. In this article, Stop ‘Whitesplaining’ Racism to Me, Blake tells us what to do instead.
Can ethnic and cultural diversity boost corporate profits?
Why does race and culture matter in the C-suite?
How did the racial divide get started in the United States?
Is racial bias a real thing?
How do I know if I have racial bias?
How were race and racism constructed in the United States through law and how did those laws shape our culture?
Why does "equality" feel like oppression for white people?
What aren't people of color saying?
Why don’t white people relate well to the history of people of color?
Why are views on race relations and racial inequality between whites and black worlds apart?
Why is it so hard for white people to talk about race?
What are the behaviors that keep white people from connecting with people of color?
Jim Elders and Bruce Irons outline 10 behaviors and words white people may use that separates them from dealing with issues of race and building relationships with people of color. https://cpt.org/sites/default/files/2019-04/Undoing%20Oppressions%20-%20Distancing%20Behaviors.pdf